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Create New Post?   Search   Straight Talk: Please select... The Post Message Board - straight talk - Straight Talk Showing 1 to 50 of 130      Page 123 of 3  The Post (130 Posts)  Author    Date Posted  First Lady Conference Good Evening, Ladies I am very excited to meeting all the pastor and minister wives at the conference, this will be my first time attending the conference and I am very excited, I hope that we can put faces with the name at the conference. Maybe we can have a little sit down and get to know each other before the conference. I am very new to the straight talk and figure that this is what it is all about. Keep connected.   ngardner2007  7/13/2010 2:54:12 PM (PST)  Re: First Lady Conference I am thankful each year for the women who will be attending. I pray that it will bless you and allow you to share in the support of first ladies in your city. You will be blessed. I look forward to meeting those new to the conference and those returning.   for purpose  7/26/2010 7:16:15 PM (PST)  Balance? I'm a young pastor's wife of a young, but growing church. I am finding it to be extremely LONELY as my husband is always on the go for ministry. I have few friends, but they don't understand ministry wives. So, I'm cautious when discussing this with them. I'm very particular when it comes to making "friends" within the ministry. My husband and I rarely spend time together and communicate. Most of the time, he is going to do ministry or we always have people at our house. Sometimes, I feel like a single parent. When I express this to him, the conversation always end in an argument, even when I desperately try to talk to him in love. He always says that this is part of the job and this is what he's called to do. Am I being selfish to want more time with him and my child...alone...apart from ministry???? How much is a pastor's wife supposed to give up without feeling so lonely and losing herself?   ffllady  6/20/2010 2:23:54 AM (PST)  Re: Balance? Sister ffllady, I am praying for you; it's ironic that we leading ladies have the same testimony of the ministry before family. I am still asking the Lord to give me revelation on that. I personally believe that you must minister well at home before you can effectively minister to others. Now we know that the gifts and calling comes without repentance, however the full manifesting of the Holy Spirit can not flow unless there is unity in the home. Let us all be encouraged, these test and trials come to make us strong. I look at it this way, pressure may make you drop to your knees; but allow it to benefit you, by you drawing near to God through a posture of pray and intercession. Keep the faith, you are not alone.   LadyByGrace  6/20/2010 3:10:44 PM (PST)  Re: Re: Balance? Thank you sooo much for your encouraging words. You don't know how much this means to me...that I'm not the only one facing this. I don't discuss my marriage with anyone, especially not ministry staff and church people! So, I had all of this bottled up in me for the past two years. I'm praying daily and making confessions. I just cannot stand when my husband makes me feel like I'm wrong for wanting more uninterrupted, QUALITY time because he's doing ministry all of the time. I will continue to pray and let the Holy Spirit tame my tongue to keep from nagging. I will be praying for you as well!   ffllady  6/20/2010 10:11:13 PM (PST)  Re: Re: Re: Balance? fflady, you are definitely NOT alone! Your story sounds a lot like mine. I, too find myself feeling lonely because I can't talk to my non-ministry friends about and not the church people either. It's been a crazy journey so far--we've been married just 2 years, we have a 1 year-old, we both work and then there's the ministering, the frequent guests, phone calls, and various crises to attend to. As recently-married couple, we haven't even had a chance to really establish a routine for our marriage. I always feel like I just need another woman who's been through this to help me think through it and realize what's really reasonable to expect and HOW to live a life with so many demands. My husband and I both say we want more quality time together, yet we tend to put it on the back burner. I'm hoping that the upcoming conference will give me a chance to connect and let it all out somehow. You pray for me and I'll pray for you!   pinkabella  6/23/2010 11:45:51 PM (PST)  I have been thinking lately... In observation of oneself and the body of Christ,I perceive that the church has become somewhat self-centered or maybe even lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God...so much complaining if it does not fit into a certain mold if it makes us uncomfortable. My souls cries out Take Over Lord! Let us return to our first love. What do you think?   FirstLadyT  6/9/2010 11:31:01 AM (PST)  Re: I have been thinking lately... I believe this to be true also. It seems that the spirit of "self-love" is prevalent. We can't even effectively minister to others because we are so caught up in our own lives, circumstances and situations. We are constantly looking for "me time" when it isn't even about us. It's all about Christ. I cry out with you LadyT - Take me over Lord! Holy Spirit renew my mind even more at an accerlerated speed.   firstladie2  6/13/2010 2:02:06 PM (PST)  Anybody There?? 6/5/2010-I am new to this ministry and would love the opportunity to straight talk and fellowship with other women of God; however I'm not seeing much activity. I know this ministry/outlet/resource is needed or we would've signed up.. God bless you ladies and hope to read from you soon :)) LadyByGrace   LadyByGrace  6/5/2010 2:23:18 PM (PST)  Re: Anybody There?? Hello LadybyGrace! I am here. This outlet is definitely needed by leading ladies everywhere. It's good to be able to connect and relate to other ladies who are in the same position as you are. I have found that everybody needs somebody to toss thoughts around with. God is so awesome! He knows the time and season to allow paths to cross and divine connections to be made. Praise Him!   firstladie2  6/6/2010 5:42:19 PM (PST)  Re: Anybody There?? Well hello my Lady. I am glad to see you here. I felt the same way, I realized even with myself that being who we are, it is kind of weird to open up and share. We try to keep our lives so personal, atleast I do. It is hard to find people you can trust and if you have experience a betrayal of trust that does not help. So anyway I praise God for you my Sister. Please stay because as we can see this forum is needed.   FirstLadyT  6/7/2010 8:13:08 AM (PST)  Re: Anybody There?? I am here! I wish this site had a chat function so you could see when other Sr. Pastors wives were online and communicate. But know that we are here for you, praying for you and with Christ all things are possible.   mrsrevb  6/11/2010 2:42:05 PM (PST)  Re: Anybody There?? I am here and don't feel lonely, I am also fairly new to the site, I will read some of the posted but then I think to myself, do I know this person because this is the same things that I am going through as well. I am here if you need to talk, I don't get on like I should but I will try to do my best and communicate more with the Women of God because one way or the other, we all need each other.   ngardner2007  7/13/2010 2:58:19 PM (PST)  How are you leading ladies doing today? How are you leading ladies doing today? As for myself, I am glad to be in this day, for this is the day that the Lord has made, I am rejoicing and glad in it; This is my personal praise!!   LadyByGrace  6/4/2010 10:20:33 AM (PST)  Prayer For Husband!! Prayer For Your Husband 6/3/2010 Father, I come boldly before Your throne of grace in the name of our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ, lifting up my husband. Father, You said in Your word, “a faithful man who can find?” I thank You Father, for blessing me with a husband that is faithful and true. I thank You Father, that my husband is a man of God who loves You with all of his heart, all of his soul, all of his strength, and all of his mind. I confess that he allows nothing to come between his relationship with You, or his family, or separate his love from You, or his family. Father, I thank You that You are the Shepherd and Bishop of his soul. I thank You that he is a man of God who seeks Your face daily for divine directions, instructions, and guidance. I pray Father, that as he seeks Your face, that You would be a lamp unto his feet, a light unto his path, and guide him with Your eyes and Your Spirit, as You order his footsteps. I thank You Father, that he studies to show himself approved unto You, O God, a workman that need not be ashamed, one who knows how to rightfully divide the word of truth. I pray that as he studies Your word, that You would give him revelation knowledge concerning Your word so that he may teach and instruct his family in the word of the Lord. I take authority over the devil, and over every demonic spirit, every principality, and every spirit of wickedness in high places, and I bind them from my husband’s life. Satan, I command you to loose hold from my husband’s life, and I render you helpless, and powerless to operate in his life in any area, or hinder his life in any way, by the authority of the name of Jesus Christ. I thank You Father that no weapon that is formed against him will be able to prosper, and every tongue which shall rise up against him shall be condemned. I thank You Father, for Your promise to rebuke the devourer from his life, and I pray that You would bless my husband with a double portion of Your anointing, so that when the enemy come against him one way, because of the power and anointing which is upon him, the devil shall be forced to flee from my husband seven different ways. I thank You Father, that my husband had favor with You; therefore, he has favor with man. I pray that You would bless him to prosper in everything he does. I pray that as he goes on his job, that he will allow his light to so shine before those around him, that they may see his good work, and glorify You, O God. I thank You Father, that my husband loves me, ever as Jesus Christ loved the church and gave himself for the church. And Father, even as my husband loves me, I thank You that I shall love him and submit myself unto him as unto Christ. I thank You Father, that my husband is crucified with Christ; nevertheless, he lives; yet it is not him that lives, but Jesus Christ living in him; and the life which he now lives in the flesh, he lives by the faith, power, strength, anointing, and guidance of the Lord, Jesus Christ. Father, I pray that You would keep my husband from falling, and present him faultless with exceeding great joy. I pray that You would lead him away from temptation, and deliver him from every trap and snare of the adversary, as You deliver him from all evil. Father, I commit my husband to You, and I am confident, that according to Your word, You are able to keep him, sustain him, protect him, and direct him in all his ways, as I have committed him unto You. In the name of Jesus Christ, I pray, AMEN!   LadyByGrace  6/3/2010 8:00:35 AM (PST)  You Should Be Your Husband Greatest Intercessor!! 6/03/2010- The enemy has a desire to sift our husband/Pastors as wheat; you being closest to your husband, being one with him; you must intercede on his behalf. This is vital for the health of your marriage, family and ministry. A Pastor Wife friend of mine, caught her husband watching pornography and she say she felt numb and wanted to give up. The Lord spoke through me to her; Are you going to let the enemy try to steal your husband and you not give him a fight. We are in a spiritual battle and you must go into spiritual warfare; that is to use the weapons that the LORD has given us, because the War has been won, but you must be prepared for battle. Prayer is vital, your confession is critical, your obedience is mandatory. Here's Formated Prayer for Pastors; this format is good for speaking the Word of God, back to God. He told us that His Word would not return back unto Him Void. When we speak Gods Word, we obligate Him to respond on our behalf. God is not a man, that He should lie. Prayer For Your Pastor Father, I come boldly before Your throng of grace lifting up Pastor ________ in the name of Jesus Christ. Father, You instructed us to pray for those who are in authority over us, so that we may lead a peaceful life in all godliness and honesty. Therefore, Father, as You have placed Pastor ________ over me in spiritual authority, I lift him up before You this day. I thank You Father, that the Spirit of the Lord is upon Pastor ________, and You have anointed him to preach the Gospel to the poor in heart; You have given him a spirit of counsel to encourage and console those who are brokenhearted; to preach deliverance through Jesus Christ to those who have been taken captive by satan; to lay hands upon the sick, and the sick recover; and preach the acceptable year of the Lord. I thank You Father, that the spirit of wisdom, understanding, and knowledge in Your word, rest upon him. I pray Father, that as he would teach and minister Your word, or give counsel, that You would think through his mind, speak through his lips, and minister through him , as a vessel of clay; one that is prepared for Your use, and meet for every good work that You would have for him. I thank You Father, that Pastor __________ decreases in his life each day, as he allows you to increase in his life day by day; and I pray that you anoint him with a double portion of Your anointing, for Your purpose, plan, and Your will. Father, as you renew the strength of the eagle, I pray that You would continually renew Pastor _________ ‘s strength. I pray that you would bless him to mount up with wings as eagles, so that he may run (in the work of the Lord) and not be weary, so that he may walk (by faith) and not faint. Father, You said in Your word that You would give us pastors after Your own heart, and You would give them knowledge and understanding. Father, I pray according to Your word, that You would give him knowledge and understanding in all things, to teach and counsel Your people in the wisdom of the Lord. Father, I pray that Pastor __________ is a man after Your own heart, and I confess that he is a pastor who desires to know You more, a pastor that desires to please You at all times, a pastor that continually seeks You for instructions and guidance concerning Your people, a pastor who has a heart for the sheep ( the congregation), a pastor who cared for them, keeps watch of the evil one for them, and a pastor who prays effectually and fervently with prayers and supplication for them. I take authority over the devil, and over every demonic spirit, every principality, and every spirit of wickedness in high places; and I bind them from his life, and from the live of his family in the name of Jesus Christ. I pull down every stronghold of Satan, I cast down every wicked imagination from his life, by the authority of the name of Jesus Christ. Father, I pray that you would keep him strong in You O Lord, and in the power of Your might. I pray that You bless him to put on, and keep on the whole armor of God, so the he may be able to stand against the wiles and deceptions of satan. I thank You Father, that he will not be taken in, or fall by the spirit of pride, greed, lust, fornication, adultery, or any other spirit of deception that satan would try to use to bring him down. Father, I pray that You would contend with them that contend with Pastor __________, and fight on his behalf. I thank You Father, that no weapon that is formed against him will prosper in any way, and every tongue that rises against him shall be condemned. I thank You Father, for Your promise to rebuke the devourer for his sake, and I pray that You would encamp strong and might angels around him and his family, to keep them safe from all hurt, harm and danger. Now Father, I thank You and I praise You for Pastor ________, and I commit him unto Your care and protection; for I am fully persuaded that You will keep him   LadyByGrace  6/3/2010 7:49:21 AM (PST)  Speak The Word Over Your Life Prayer For Wives to Confess Posted 6/3/2010 Father, in the Name of Jesus, I take Your Word and speak it out of my mouth and say that I have faith that I am a capable, intelligent, patient, and virtuous woman. I am far more precious than jewels. My value to my husband and family is far above rubies and pearls. The heart of my husband trusts in me confidently and relies on and believes in me completely, so that he has no lack of honest gain or need of dishonest spoil. Father, I will comfort, encourage, and do him only good as long as there is life within me. I gird myself with strength -- spiritual, mental, and physical fitness for my God-given task. I taste and see that my gain from work with and for God is good. My lamp goes not out. It burns on continually through the night of any trouble, privation, or sorrow, and it warns away fear, doubt, and distrust. I open my hand to the poor. I reach out my filled hands to the needy - whether in spirit, soul, or body. My husband is known as a success in everything he puts his hand to. Strength and dignity are my clothing, and my position in my household is strong. I am secure and at peace in knowing that my family is in readiness for the future. I open my mouth with skillful and Godly wisdom, and in my tongue is the law of kindness and love. I look well to how things go in my household. The bread of idleness, gossip, discontent, and self-pity I will not eat. My children rise up and call me blessed and happy. My husband boasts of and praises me, saying that I excel in all that I set my hand to. I am a woman who reverently and worshipfully loves You, Lord, and You shall give me the fruits of my hands. My works will praise me wherever I go, for Father, I confess that I am a submitted wife - simply because I want to be and I recognize Your authority. I thank You for my husband who is head over me, but who has given me (through the chain of command) the necessary power to do what Your Word says for me to do from Proverbs 31:10-31. I am as this woman is - a loving, successful, submitted wife - in the Name of Jesus. Scripture Reference: Proverbs 31:10-31 (KJV)   LadyByGrace  6/3/2010 7:39:42 AM (PST)  Re: Speak The Word Over Your Life My soul does magnify the Lord! Yes, Yes this is what we need. Ladybygrace, thanks for taking the time to pray and encourage us. I pray that the Lord will restore you as you pour out. God knows what we need when we need it.   FirstLadyT  6/7/2010 8:23:58 AM (PST)  "The Life of a Leading Lady" (Be Encouraged) Posted- 6/2/2010: I've been contemplating on a word of encouragement; I wanted to speak to the heart of you the women of God; those set aside to lead through the life that we live. We minister, pray, deposit and pour into the lives of many . . . . but in "that moment", when you seemed to be in despair, confused, broken, bruised . . . . (who) will minister life into you? When we leading ladies get together, we must put on our "church face", and when we are asked how are you?; we automatically resound "I'm blessed and highly favored of the Lord", but to those who have a spirit of discernment, at "that moment" we began to whisper of prayer "Lord, may it be Peace in her midst. Do you have someone who you can talk to, someone you can minister to and be ministered by; someone who will labor with you and pray with and for you? Can you trust that sister to know your thoughts, that will speak words of encouragement to you; to keep your eyes on God, to not be moved, by what you hear or what you see, but that which is "truth " the Word of God; remember we must press, confess and watch God work in our midst. I must admit, you can not talk to everyone about everything; but God has anointed and appointed someone, who can provide the support needed to keep you lifted and encouraged as you minister unto others. Someone who will not judge you, but listen with a heart of compassion; that special one who you can call sister, friend . I don't have to go into great detail, but we all know those "that moment" when need to be heard, when we have a few things on our minds; when we move our neck and point our finger, in " that moment" you need your sister, friend to listen and encourage you, because that very thing that got you boiling, may not be as big as you think. In "that moment", you can be heard, and ministered to and yet there be "peace" the house. Accountability Titus 2:3-5: Likewise, teach the older (mature) women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can train the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.(NIV) Ask God for what you need!! Lord, I pray for someone with whom I can share my inner life - someone who will encourage me to be accountable. Please provide a mature woman who will mentor me and keep my life struggles confidential. I pray for someone with a loving heart - a person who won't judge me but will pray for and with me. Help me to be wise and responsible, but when I'm not, Lord, help me to learn and grow in my spiritual development. I want to be strong in Your strength. Amen. Ladies, I extend my ear and my heart to you, you may contact Lady Fadrienne Green by sending me a message through my inbox; I will pray with you and for you; if you have questions, I will strive to answer them with wisdom, not my personal opinion, and for those questions that I do not have an answer, I will seek the answer and will return with a sound answer. God Bless You!!   LadyByGrace  6/2/2010 8:09:40 PM (PST)  Under attack I feel as if my entire family is under attack. I admit that some of the problems were my issues that I caused but Satan is so sneaky. This year has been one issue after another after another. Between financial (loan modification denied, husband's salary cut), marital (beware of Facebook!), children (daughter failed EOG test and is having discipline issues), church folks complaining and don't want to follow vision.My health (rheumatoid arthritis) I am just totally burnt out. I am sitting at my desk at work, praying for a miracle but I feel like God has closed is ears. I have tried prayer and fasting. Some days are better than others, but this is not one of them. I ask my sisters in prayer to keep me lifted.   mrsrevb  5/28/2010 6:51:16 AM (PST)  Re: Under attack Mrsrevb, I feel your pain and frustration. God has not forgotten you. Your trials and frustrations are all apart of your training and preparation to strengthen your faith and produce edurance that you may be strong enough to bear up under the greater persecutions that will come with the greater blessings He has in store for you. So many attacks keep coming at me I can barely catch my breath. Yet I have made up my mind and am fully persuaded that I Can Stand to Be Blessed. I am not forgotten, God knows my name and yours too. Without faith it is impossible to please God. He who comes to God must believe that He is and is a rewarder of him who diligently seek Him. Hebrews 11:6. Get in the word. Get some godly wisdom so you won't repeat the same mistakes. Praise God like you would if He had already brought you through. Talk the Word of God to Satan. Greater is He that is in you than he (satan) is in the world. I John 4:4. Be encouraged. You are a strong woman of God. God cannont lie. The word of God says " I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength. Philippians 4:13. Stay in the word of God. Stand on the Word of God. I pray your faith fail not. In Christ Strength, vchip   tflfirstlady  6/1/2010 6:49:21 PM (PST)  New Kid on the Block I am new to this forum and I am very excited to be here. I thank God for leading me to this "Safe Place" and I look forward to growing in God's grace with the rest of my Sisters. God riches blessings be upon all of you.   FirstLadyT  5/27/2010 4:34:08 AM (PST)  Re: New Kid on the Block I too am a new kid on the block joining today. I am looking forward to gaining knowledge and fellowship. I guess that makes us line sisters since we started at the same time. :)   tflfirstlady  5/27/2010 5:49:12 PM (PST)  Is Something Wrong with me? My husband is a Minister on staff of large and growing congregation. I noticed that one lady, on staff is extremely friendly with my husband when I'm not around. I have noticed this mutual'merriment' between them on more than one occassion. Lately, I am Expecting to receive the same fervor and interest from/with this staff member when I'm in conversation with her, however, she is usually not very talkative to me and she rarely makes eye contact with me. Is her behavior towards me indifferent because I am not a minister or because I am his wife? I feel like something is Wrong w/Me!   Delightful Diva  4/7/2010 2:23:44 PM (PST)  Re: Is Something Wrong with me? I think it is important that you share your concerns with your husband, so he could be aware of this situation. This will probably help him to be mindful of his approach and contact with this staff member. Hopefully, he can also help you by making sure that this staff person values and respects you, by sending her to you, for some of the issues she needs help with. Sending her to other staff members to deal with some of work issues, is another approach as well. He probably wants to make sure when he is dialoging with her alone, that people are around. The bottom line is my sister, he needs to be made aware of this situation. We know women well.   alphaand  4/20/2010 9:36:47 AM (PST)  Re: Is Something Wrong with me? Delightful Diva, My dear sister, Do not judge or second guess yourself and value based on another's reaction to or lack of affirmation of you. You are approved and loved by God. Only God knows the heart and thoughts of others. If you have a concern about this woman and her interactions with your husband pray and ask God to reveal to you the truth. Wait on Him to speak and ask Him for wisdom on when and how to bring the issue of concern up with your husband. If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God who gives to all liberally and without reproach, but let him ask in faith, not doubting lest he recieve nothing. James 1:5 Do not be afraid. Whatever is done in darkness will come to light. God is a very present help in the time of trouble. Trust God. He will never leave you or forsake you. In His love, vchip   tflfirstlady  6/1/2010 7:01:01 PM (PST)  What to do? I have been a senior pastor's wife for over 10 years and I am dealing with things that I've never dealt with before. My husband and I moved to a new church a year ago. I have tried to give these people a chance but I am finding it hard. The women my age are nothing but a bunch of moody backstabbers. One Sunday they talk to you the next they won't. They run their mouths about things you said when you didn't. The church itself has had a split but no one ever left. The younger generation and the older generation are always at odds with each other. I am very unhappy here. I KNOW that God has sent us here but I am getting very discouraged. I have talked with my husband some but I can tell that he is getting tired of hearing it. I'm just asking all of you to pray for me, my husband, my girls (they are having a hard time making friends also), our ministry, and the church....   tflfirstlady  3/31/2010 8:19:09 AM (PST)  Re: What to do? I would encourage you to continue to share with your husband and also pray together about this situation. Those of us who come on the message board, will also be joining you in prayer about this. Prayer does change things. It might be good to share this with the mature leadership of the church, so you can get their support through this time. In the meantime, as you wait for change to come, this is the time to build more into your personal and family relationships. This is also a great time to take your devotional life to another level. Keep in touch. God bless you.   gullotine  4/5/2010 10:52:46 AM (PST)  Re: Re: What to do? I too will keep you lifted in prayer. I understand it is difficult. My husband is now candidating for a church in a larger city and I have concerns about what lies ahead. But I know that the same God that was with me for our first assignment will be with us in the future.   mrsrevb  5/27/2010 6:29:55 PM (PST)  Teenage Daughter/Weiry Husband My 13 year old daughter is struggling with negative self image. She needs to lose about 25 lbs to reach her goal. We have provided a gym pass and access to a personal trainer but I think her eating is off. I too have weight issues and would not be shocked if her negative self image is almost heredity. Shopping is EXHAUSTING with her! She constantly cries in the fitting room. Has anyone experienced this and found a solution that works? Also my husband is weiry from ministry and often speaks of quitting or how tired he is of responsibility. I am out of encouraging words, often times I feel the same way! A nice vacation is not in the budget however I think that would be a quick fix for now...   scooper1015  3/29/2010 8:31:49 PM (PST)  This place of PW's Hello, It seems to me that being a pastor wife can be a lonely place. Does anybody seem to feel that way. Any advice.Everybody expects so much of you. I was looking forward to getting on this website to meet new friends walking the same journey but no one seems to be responding.   Sarah's Daughter  3/18/2010 5:46:16 PM (PST)  Re: This place of PW's It can be a lonely place. And I learned the hard way that you can't trust just anyone. However, I also found that being the Pastor's Wife was also a wonderful calling and a blessed place to be. It's a role I miss dearly. Hang in there. Choose your friends wisely, speak cautiously, but do seek a godly sister who walks in your shoes. Though I don't wear the shoes any more, I'm here to talk if you want.   Uriah & Company  3/19/2010 12:26:25 PM (PST)  Re: This place of PW's Yes, I have felt the same way, lonely. I trust the Lord is with me and knows what I face. Lately I've considered a spiritual therepist, due to the fact that I am appear to be stressed, loosing my hair and feeling physically drained, headaches etc. Often times there are issues withing the congregation that bother me and I have to carry them with no one to release the frustrations to.   for purpose  3/26/2010 8:29:19 PM (PST)  Re: Re: This place of PW's I think we have all been there. Pastor's wives carry the burden of a church and a family. We are often lonely and feel as if we have no friends. I agree with the other post in that it is best to seek a person that has been in the walk for council. I have been blessed to have an aunt that is a former pastor's wife and she has been my rock and confidante. There are somethings that I have shared with her that I wouldn't have shared elsewhere. She talks to me, encourages me and prays for me. Humans need to feel connected and there are times when we as PW like we can't talk to our husbands or anyone else. I suggest for a young pastor's wife to find a mentor. Just like in Titus...   mrsrevb  5/27/2010 6:40:32 PM (PST)  Re: This place of PW's i too have just joined--5-26-2010 I have desperate moments and struggle with someone to talk to--mostly The Holy Spirit leads me to someone--and I find sweet fellowship and peace--then I am off again to the next challenge.. Keep Trusting The lord for He care for you. Faye   tflfirstlady  5/26/2010 6:48:09 PM (PST)  Re: Re: This place of PW's Praise the Lord my Sister, truly it is a blessing to have someone to talk to. I do feel you. People will disappointed us because we expect so much out of one another but lets put things in proper perspective. I searched all over... High and Low and I still couldn't find nobody Greater than Jesus. He is the lover of my soul.   FirstLadyT  5/27/2010 5:19:53 AM (PST)  Re: Re: This place of PW's Well hello there my line sister. That's funny. Yes this is pretty neat, being able to talk with Sisters who can relate to the calling of Pastor's Wife. This feels kind of wierd because we are accustomed to what we say and who we say it to. Here we all have a common cause. Look forward to speaking with you. Keep your head up. Press toward the mark of the High calling in Christ Jesus and let God fight all your battles. Our King is victorious, and remember to love unconditionally even when love is not returned.   FirstLadyT  5/28/2010 10:53:51 AM (PST)  Re: Re: Re: This place of PW's Thanks. I am trying to keep my head up and stay encouraged and remember the scripture grow not weary in well doing for in due season you shall reap if you faint not. But in all honesty right now I feel like fainting...Hope you have a wonderful Memorial Day weekend and I will do my best to show love, even when it is not returned. The Bible says love thy enemies and Tupac says watch your homies and as a pastors wife I am learning that although Tupac was far from a saint, both were right.LOL!   mrsrevb  5/28/2010 3:52:30 PM (PST)  Re: Re: Re: Re: This place of PW's This is the day that the Lord has made let us rejoice and be glad in it. Its another Days journey and I am glad about it. Sister you know we have to Encourage ourselves, like David did, He encouraged himself in the Lord his God. Dont you dare give in to the devices us the enemy. Shout unto God with the voice of triumph! PW is a calling, a High calling. Who would have thought... remember He that has begun a good work in you is faithful and just to complete it until the day of Jesus Christ. Be mindful as Iam speaking to myself also. I feel you my Sister I feel you. God bless... now go and get your praise on. God has brought us too far!!!   FirstLadyT  5/30/2010 4:36:14 AM (PST)  Prayin 4 U! I am so sorry that you have to go thru this. I sent you a email. I hope the information helps u   Sarah's Daughter  3/18/2010 5:23:41 PM (PST)  Re: Prayin 4 U! Thank you for the phone number. I called and they are getting some information to me. They may not specifically have a pastor's wife for me to talk to, but they do have a retreat of some kind. I appreciate your caring enough to respond. I tried to e-mail you back but each attempt failed. God bless you.   Uriah & Company  3/19/2010 12:23:04 PM (PST)  Ex-Wife of Adulterous Pastor Seeks Counsel About two years ago I was able to confirm that my husband, a senior pastor, was having an affair with my 'good friend.' He resigned in disgrace. He asked for another chance and I welcomed him home. He was home for almost another year, but after catching him with her time and again, I divorced him. The affair continues even though HER divorce is still not final. He is on his third job in a year and a half and is looking for yet another. He no longer pays his full child support/alimony and tells me he is a month away from bankruptcy. We do have a high school age daughter who despises both her father and his girlfriend. This woman curried my daughter's favor with lots of attention and expensive gifts believing my daughter would choose to live with the two of them when the time came. She is haughty and unrepentant and quite condescending toward me. I have more good days than bad days now, but I still struggle with anger and heartbreak. I have searched all over the country and have not yet found someone who can link me up with someone who has worn my shoes. I want to know how others have handled this and to hear that there is light at the end of the tunnel. Does anyone have any insight?   Uriah & Company  3/16/2010 11:25:11 AM (PST)  Re: Ex-Wife of Adulterous Pastor Seeks Counsel I belive you are a Virtous and Wise Woman or you would not be seeking 'much counsel'. With that said Continue to extend your hands to the needy. There are Many LADIES around us who need a Godly example of Grace under Pressure to make it another day, so I admonish you to let Your Light Shine! Remember Psalms 112:4 Light shines to the Upright, so keep getting up and keep doing what is right! For me I have taken my ministry to the golf course and you would not believe how that is helping me to reach out! By reaching out I am not on the look out for HOW I AM mis-treated.I am aware of my sin conscious of humanity (not just my husbands sins), but my View of the World is more Biblical. Also, I am more aware of what God is requiring of me. In Micah 6:8 He instructs me to: And what does the LORD require of you But to do justly, To love mercy, And to walk humbly with your God? Again, I hurt and I am not saying I'm clueless to what goes on around me, however In short, I am saying for me giving of my God given talents(teaching, coaching and mentoring) Loving the unloveable, and Walking humbly with my God is the best therapy! Hope this helps! Celebrate Jesus and Celebrate YOU!   Delightful Diva  3/19/2010 1:51:54 PM (PST)  Help! In-laws I need someone to give me some feedback!!! My husband is senior pastor and his mother is the overseer/apostle of the ministry. Where do I fit in? Sometimes I'm unsure of my position. The boundaries are unclear and I need prayer and answers. It has affected our home life as well as my spiritual growth. Sometimes I think the authority is misused??? Please give me some feedback!   tflfirstlady  3/12/2010 12:20:32 PM (PST)  Re: Help! In-laws 10A truly good wife is the most precious treasure a man can find! 11Her husband depends on her, and she neverlets him down. First Lady, You fit into his life like no other woman can! Rejoice and prayerfully discuss the scope of your role in the ministry with YOUR husband. I am praying for you.   Delightful Diva  3/12/2010 1:48:50 PM (PST)  Crushed By Church-goer! Two of my Outlaw-in-laws are Mega church-goers. In this church they serve in various roles and capacities from music ministry to capital stewardship ministry. They participate in Intercessory prayer and various outreach ministries which serve the needs of many in their local urban communities. Both of them and my mother-in love have many scriptures highlighted in their Bibles. Both of them and my mother-in love go to church so faithfully. Yet their behavior towards me as a wife never changes! Outwardly they seem to be ideal ‘churchgoers’. Yet when it comes to dealing others, particular the married sister’s in-laws they seem to do nothing but sow seeds of strife, bitterness and discord. Each of them behaves unmercifully towards me and sometimes towards our children. Unhealthy patterns are taking their toll on their bodies and minds as well. Several of them have some type of ailment which requires daily medication. Yet they refuse to do anything differently. The church-going father and ALL the church-going brothers have a history of infidelity which seems to go ignored. The family also seems to ignore the porn addiction, the alcohol addiction and the recreationally use of marijuana by other siblings who go to church as well. Yet, they often attack me as a wife regarding their son/brother. They are allowed to disrespect the sanctity of marriage and my husband acts oblivious to their constant shenanigans. They claim they love ‘their son/brother’ so much but they don’t understand loving within limits. I really think its high time for my husband to awake out of sleep and tell each of them including his mother THANKS but not thanks to your ungodly advice! I also believe we have been married long enough for him to say ‘my wife does me good and not evil all the days of my life.’ Instead of communicating the commitment of our relationship openly to his family he seems to act like we love each other ONLY secretly. I will never stop loving and Trusting God but lately my feet have almost slipped and so has my tongue! I am beginning to think that my husband does not have my best interest at heart. I don’t feel covered or protected by this carnal churchgoer. And I need to know: Should I address the ungodly acts of hypocrisy in my husband and his family? Or should I just remain silent about them! Spiritually, I feel CRUSHED BY CHURCHGOERS!   Delightful Diva  3/10/2010 11:25:33 AM (PST)  Re: Crushed By Church-goer! I am sorry to hear that you are going thru this. Have you tried talking to your mother-in law one on one, heart to heart? Maybe explaining to her how hurt you are. do you guys go to the same church? If so & she doesn't listen to you, maybe you can set up some counseling with your pastor. Unless your husband is the pastor. Is this the case? Does your hubby know you feel this way? If he does & he is not understanding maybe u can suggestion some couples counseling. Ill say a prayer for u, Hope this helps   Sarah's Daughter  3/11/2010 1:03:04 PM (PST)  Introduction Hello, I am new to this site so I just wanted to say hello to all the 1st Ladies. In 1st time advice for the site? My husband and I founded a church 7 months ago so we are new. Looking forward to meeting some new 1st Lady friends to share with. Hope to hear from someone soon!   Sarah's Daughter  3/5/2010 10:58:48 AM (PST)  Re: Introduction Hello there, Welcome to straight talk! My hubby (Pastor) and I have recently relocated our church in my hometown so I guess you can say it's "fairly new" here. What a great opportunity for evangelism wherever you and your husband are. It's challenging, yet fulfilling. When the Lord is with you...it's all worth it! May HE continue t be with you sis. Much love and prayers, First Lady Sneed - http://www.hopeministriescogic.org   1stladysneed  3/5/2010 10:14:12 PM (PST)  Re: Introduction God Bless You Sis; I am looking forward to the fellowship and meeting of other First Ladies. God is faithful and He's equipping you and Pastor to do greater works. Amen. LadyByGrace Google Me: http://wordforcity.ning.com   LadyByGrace  6/4/2010 1:53:37 PM (PST)

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